Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better?
Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better?
Marriage is a very important social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in case of arrange marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose the partner for marriage. Let’s analyze which one of the two is better.
Love marriage
- Both individuals know each other already and mutually decide to spend the whole life with each other.
-Couple is responsible for its choice and onus of the blame in future lies on the couple only and nobody else.
-Couple is aware of each other’s likes and dislikes. Therefore they will get along well.
-Couple can eradicate social evil like dowry with their mutual consent because they have the independence to take such decisions at their own level.
-The culture of the extravagant spending too can be curbed by the understanding between the couple.
Arrange marriage:
-Arrange Marriage is not a contract between two individuals alone but a confluence of two families.
-Two families involved in arrange marriages know each other very well and are compatible with each other.
-Because there are more people involved in arrange marriage, the conflict between the couple will be effectively resolved or mitigated.
-Couple is guided by parents experience whereas in love marriage couple is unknown about the future complexities in life and lacks this experience.
Conclusion:
Both ways have their merits as well as demerits and marriage is a decision of lifetime. Though families are involved in most of the marriages, it’s the couple which has to live together for lifetime. So, the decision to choose life partner should be left to the individuals. Ultimately no one can certify the best way for a perfect marriage life because like life marriages too are full of uncertainties.
Discussion
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Sachin nayak (03/20/19)
- Marriage is all about understanding between two.So i think if there is better understanding between two than they are suitable for marrying, Family must not put pressure to there children to get married according to their wish, But help them to find better.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Naveena (01/08/19)
- Good Morning Friends,
Marriage is an important part of every human's life. It helps to keep their next career path with their life partner. So both love and arrange marriage is always provide happiness. But we first should choose the partner our life. So choice is yours.
Love is nothing but unthinkable feeling our life. It cannot explain. However, before we married we love first in our partner. That is one soul in two body's. Love provide lot of happiness. So we feel it. Truly we love our life partner. So we choose the best partner even however before or arrange marriage. But how marriage is important in our life that way is also important in our parent's life.
So parents choose our life partner then, we love our partner after marriage. Love marriage or arrange marriage anything in our life. We love really and rightly with our life partner. That is important our life.
Thank You. - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Love marriage vs Arrange marriage (04/27/18)
- Love or arranged, both have their own share of advantages and disadvantages. Having said that the success of marriage is irrelevant of the manner the knot has been tied. It relies on mutual understanding they share for considerable time to stay happily. Post marriage calls for extra responsibility, those who shoulder it, lead beautiful life together.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Frustry (02/21/18)
- Arranged marriage is equal to Rape !!!!!!!!!
If men cannot control themselves when they see a girl on the street,
how do you think they behave when they see a bride in their bedroom ??!
If you think they are going to be gentlemen, you are doing the biggest mistake of your life.
The most raped women are in India, which is done by the consentements of families. Lots of women live with this trauma all their lifes and behave in front of their families like everything is normal, as they think that this is the meaning of Marriage! - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Rupinder (02/19/17)
- Marriage is a beautiful part of life. Everybody wants his/her life partner would be perfect but there are different ways to choose the life partner. In love marriage both personalities are know each other very well,, their likes ,dislikes, etc. The responsibility is totally depend on both of them not else. Some time our parents are not happy with that decision. In arriange marriage our family choose the partner, according to their experience. But there is individualy person does not know about their partner. There is a relation between two families and they support everywhere .But in love marriage spend more money and lot of dowry cases occurr. In love marriage this thing is less.
Both are better at their place. Everything has merits & demerits, No body can be perfect - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Ruchika (11/30/16)
- In my opinion , marriage is hell lot of affair and more than what it looks to the relatives. We live in 21st century saying that there is so much of liberalization and globalisation whereas the other side of the coin is the societal rituals and beliefs opposing and contradicting it.
I definitely agree with few of my friends' comments that Arrange marriage is integration of families and couple but boss the couple has to live together.
Its okay to make mistakes. No one is perfect but in Arrange marriage the loophole is anything happens, boy is supported and respected more than any of the girl whereas in love marriage Guys stand against wrong things which rarely happens in Arrange marriage.
Therefore I conclude it depends on one's beliefs and one's upbringing of how they feel . More open minded people can afford and make mistakes with grace ....Like me ;) whilst the other feel the opposite :(
Do whatever you wanna do but accept mistakes and learn so that firstly you feel proud to be YOU. - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -ALOK KUMAR (11/28/16)
- IN LOVE ? MARRIAGE ?? BOTH PARTNERS KNOW EACH OTHER COMPLETELY,UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER,KNOW EACH OTHER FAVOURITE THEN BOTH PARTNERS WILL DECIDE TO MEET EACH OTHER FAMILY ?? IN RESTAURANT,HOTEL ?? OR ANYWHERE.IN CASE OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE ?? PARENTS WOULD DECIDE HER CHILDREN FAVOURITE.IN THIS MARRIAGE ?? BOTH PARTNERS NOT KNOW EACH OTHER
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Monu yadav (09/29/16)
- Hi everyone my name is monu yadav arrange marriage is best my point of view.here we can find caring with each other . respecting each other family support. rule and regulations. traditional marriage we can saya its a relation between to unknown person
Thanxx - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -sai kumar (09/28/16)
- no body can make a good path about marriage the belife should be in both the couples eighter it is love marriage or arranged marriage the decision should be left only 60% to the childers the parents also should take responsible for bot marriages they also should think about their childrens, and my suggestion to childrens is once you love some one unknowing persons please think of your parents and for your bright future and no one is important than your parents. And parents you should also think of your childrens the love cant give birth in the same cast but many of your child love marriages are not hapening due to the cast and dowary trobule which you are showing so please leave the cast, human being it self an animal just think about there future
thankyou. - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Ankur Kumar (09/20/16)
- well, Every marriage has their own merits and demerits.In my opinion love marriage is better than arrange marriage because in love marriage person get to know each other very well already but in arranged marriage no one knows about their partners characteristics. It is not that love marriage always results into conflict between two person but if a person has good understanding between them, then there will be no problem.Conflicts in marriages arises due to cases like "dowry,Lack of understanding" etc.In arrange marriage no one knows about their partners well.Suppose that a couple is getting married and after marriage if ones about other partner's charcter that he is drunkard.it will also result into a cause of conflicts between them and if conflits arises then it will results into divorse.In love marriage, one has a chance of knowing their partner well but in arriange married it is not.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Goutham (09/16/16)
- Love marriage is better because it is more simple to marry a that we loved because we know more about them and not arranged because we are just seeing the person by not knowing more about them like attitude, style, passion, about their past??????????
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? - siddharth nanda (08/29/16)
- Hi everyone my name is sid you mean siddharth love marriage and arrenge marriage which one Better it is a very difficult question but don't very according to me love marriage is better because when a girl and boy love each other without any conditions and are ready to spend life together this is love marriage them can spend life with love partner this is way love marriage is better.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -yash (08/09/16)
- in my opinion, love marriage is better, but involution of the parents in the students decisions is more then better. there are many advantage of the love marriage like they know each other properly, the fare of hunda and chances of fraud will be less in love ,marriage . other one important thing is that after the arraign marriage some people are blaming to our parents, we choose wrong partner for me and u r the only person responsible for that. there are some disadvantages of the the love marriage ,like many of the divorces are from the love marriage i could not find the main reason for that but it relay in happens in love marriage .
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Anil kumar das (08/08/16)
- Arrange marriage is best from my point of view..here we can find caring with each other.respecting each other..family support.rule and regulations.traditional marriage we can says..its a relation between two unknown person..
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -nikhil bisht (08/01/16)
- Though arrange marriage are most successful
But in my opinion, love marriages are the best, as two people get to know each other before they get married
They are the one who have to live with their partner
So they must be the one to select
Because, in future if their relationship doesn't last long, they are responsible, instead of blaming their parents or relatives - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -prasanthi (07/30/16)
- In my point of view arranged marriage is better than love marriage because the family taken the responsibility for arranged marriage. parents should known about his daughter or son attitude so those chose the better match for you.if any misunderstandings occurs they tried to solve those misunderstandings.in love marriage decision between two people in that time some misunderstandings occurs.now a days true love is not there only attraction between two people they don't know about her real life style.marriage is a new relation between two people and relation between two families also today true love is our parents love only so arranged marriage is better than love marriage.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -namburi (07/11/16)
- me parent me kosam ma pillalu ela undali anukovada tappa memalni chadivinchadaniki yento apullu chesi valdegira time voddi katakapote yento matalu tini adi meku chepa kund gundalo daskunni. Meku teluste me stys ki ebandi avtadi ani mekosam valu enta cheste meru eche gife eda. Vallu meku chadivinchaka pote meru ye amminaina lov cheyagaligera tru hart tho chepandi e rojullo yevallaina money untene. Vostaru pls me parents kosam yedo cheyandi pls
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -namburi (07/11/16)
- me parent me kosam ma pillalu ela undali anukovada tappa memalni chadivinchadaniki yento apullu chesi valdegira time voddi katakapote yento matalu tini adi meku chepa kund gundalo daskunni. Meku teluste me stys ki ebandi avtadi ani mekosam valu enta cheste meru eche gife eda. Vallu meku chadivinchaka pote meru ye amminaina lov cheyagaligera tru hart tho chepandi e rojullo yevallaina money untene. Vostaru pls me parents kosam yedo cheyandi pls
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -navii (07/06/16)
- Both have their own advantages as well as disvantages,but the fact is that in any relationship understanding and adjustment place a crucial role.Sometimes, we have to adjust in some situations to avoid disputes which helps us to lead a happy and succesfull life.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -juvy (07/05/16)
- for me it always depend on you.with your deepest feeling and experienced.both is better if you are happy and willing to work for it.but in my situation i hate arrange marriage because some people is trying to run away from their love one just to follow their tradition..love marriage is better because maturity and being prepared well is the best key to succeed your marriage. no regret at all so friendly advice guys follow your heart and desire something that you will never regret at the end.That is our FREEDOM of our feelings..you can choose arrange or love but make sure you are open heart to embrace that decision that lead you to your everlasting and happy life
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Abhi raj pal (07/02/16)
- Marriage is not a play of doll and dolly it's the promise of lifetime it is the bond of two families and couples also. so the couple should always well knowned by each other. They would knows about like and dislike of each other when they r well known by each other they have no any tension and problems.
So I like love marriage so much.. ..... ... .............!!, - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -garry simon (07/01/16)
- as per me both are very distinct...according to arrange marriage its all about family but in love its global. there is no boundry,barriers,rules and yes with many difficulties.but love marriage is the only way to social integration whether country,caste,etc. even there is a choice of break up compared to arrange marriage which leads to patch up again.mostly arrange marriage can only done around same caste,tribes,religion,same nationalities and all...but about love marriage which earlier said "dowry system is also removed by it " even people talk about the girl child infanticide .just go and look at the main reason and history of arrange marriage which let the poorer section to be girl infanticide due to high dowry but incase of caste fighting,family fighting,even husband-wife fighting,break up that is happening due to also arrange marriage.why our family always decide about our life and marriage we should be dependent to our self and believe own decision with a meant to goal.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better?mail -Danish (06/23/16)
- Love marriahe is best instead of arrange marriage.. In m9stly arrange marriage there is not surely understanding in both partners..
In love already they know each other and understood very well.. Danish - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -ketaki (06/18/16)
- As far the marriage is concerned I think love marriage is more preferable and comfortable, because the bond between the couple is strong and they know each other very nicely. The fact is that the both are grownup that they know what is their decision towards love marriage. In arrange marriage the both don't have that strong bond and they neither know each other. Their own choice is very different but due to the force of their families they marry each other. Yes, it definitely depends upon the mutual understanding if that works then definitely the arrange marriage will work.
But as per me the love marriage is more good and comfortable. - RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -robin gurung (06/15/16)
- In my opinion love maariage is good because every one has an affairi with a girl or vis-vis but due to traditional thinking of the society they don't go for that but if we do love marriage than the traditional thinking in that couple is removed and the next generation is free to choose the couple ither by arrange or by his/her wish which make the diffrence in the society
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Aanvii Singh (06/12/16)
- I think arrange marriage is better as both families are compatible with each other. In love marriage most of the times the families do not know each other so there is no chemistry between the two families, thus ending the relationship.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -mrinmoy banerjee (06/10/16)
- I have read all the comments and I think all of u are correct in ur position...... I also support love marriage bt with parent's permission.... if u love anyone and u know her since long time then ur bonding will be strong even after marriage .....bt u also need ur parent's blessings without that ur bonding will not workout.......so love marriages with parent's permission is equal to happy life....and also that will be a happy family......
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Meenakshy Satheesh (06/08/16)
- I have read all the comments and I think everyone is right in their own beliefs and views. In my view, both marriages have their own boons and banes. I think, a solution to this confusing question is to change the thinking mentality of us Indians.... we are still contemporary in our thoughts. The thing is not of the communities or families or type of marriage. The key point is the type of person we choose as our life partner. Parents generally try to select a life partner for their kid. But, ultimately the decision should be ours. "Okay, I will choose the person you guys decide... Only after getting to know him.' This is a great idea but it often fails in a country like India. Here, we only try to show the positive side of each other and the time limit is less. In my view, I think each and every person should get the chance to choose our life partner. Familes play an important role, of course. But so on and all, it is you that have got to spend your entire life with the person. Trust and respect is the key words for both the concepts... LOVE and MARRIAGE.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Anshul (05/07/16)
- i am most supportable to love marriage but not completely against arrange too . i think in love marriages the person has enough time to understand each other and starts a good
relation with him or he . And on other side in arrange marriage in which there is not enough time to understand each other.
Some people says in love marriages the children goes against to his/her parents , but in my opinion when we love someone and want to marry , then discuss to your parents
about your partner , they will always support you in your decision.
On other hand in Arrange marriage as still dowry system is present in india some people are pressurized for money. Scenarios says that 95% arrange
marriages a follow dowry system , but in love marriages only love and trust is the base of relationship, there is no space for dowry related problems there.
So both are good in their own place .This is little bit hard to choose the best between both.
- RE: Love marriage vs Arrange marriage - Which one is better? -Ashu (05/06/16)
- As both the marriages have their own advantages but in my opinion arranged marriage is better because the parents know their child much better the child himself or herself...they know everything about our choice and our level of comfort and they search the partner of their child according to that only. Every parent chooses the world's best partner for their child. And from scenarios also it is proved that 90% of the arranged marriages are successful,which is very big scenario than love marriage.Love happens after marriage also with much better understanding and trust which can't be fake in your whole life.So it is really best and safe to marry a person which ones parents choose for their child.
