Should women change their surname after marriage?
Should women change their surname after marriage?
In India most of the women change their surnames after marriages. It is the same case in many other countries. They take the name of their husband after marriage. The big names and celebrities are also a part of this group. While there are many women who follow the old trend, there are some who have decided to keep their own surnames post wedding. The percentage of such women has peaked after 1990s. Should women change their surname after marriage?
Yes
• It is not easy to change the society names and pressures, and women need to follow it.
• The change of surname is often an indication to known persons that the girl is married now.
• If women can go and stay in the men’s house considering its own then what is the problem in accepting the husband’s name?
• Before marriage a women is the responsibility of his father and that’s why she retain her father’s name but things change after marriage.
• Despite the laws and freedom, women choose to keep their husband’s name because they like it to be a part of the other family. It is not an obligation but own preference as it gives a sense of belonging.
No
• Greece had the laws where women don’t need to change their surname after the marriage. It was started long back in year 1980s.
• Marriage is an affair where two persons mutually come together to form a bond. They why should women compromise and not men?
• It is more of maintaining personal identity. Women don’t need to gift their ownership in wedding. And this should show right from the start.
• The change of surnames means new efforts to change the names in various important documents like ration card, license, passport and others.
• Changing the surname is anyway not related to the level of commitment. Many relations fail where the women accepted the surname of her husband.
• It can encourage feminist movements. It is just one of the ways to show the men that women are par with them.
Conclusion
It is seen that in many countries women are given the freedom to choose their surnames after marriage. Despite the liberty they choose to take the husband’s name. Men also want them to change their surname as it boosts their ego. This mentality needs a change. A change in surname is not a proof that you are married. So why to stretch this old tradition? It’s the time for change!
Discussion
- RE: Should women change their surname after marriage? -Mohit (11/28/14)
- I don't think that women have to change their surname after marriage.as we all know,before marriage every women have her own life,in which she had dine their study,and all other works.if after marriage she change their surname then it will be problematic for her to change the name in document.
if a man can't change their surname then why should women do?? now the time for change so change the old traditions. - RE: Should women change their surname after marriage? -prateek (11/26/14)
- no its not the hard and fast rule to change the surname after marriage,first of all there's no point of indicating that surname change should indicate a marriage status,..moreover its must nothing to do with the name's an all after all marriage is simply a bond of affection,,..change should be encouraged after all it doesn't have scope !
- RE: Should women change their surname after marriage? -Radhika (11/26/14)
- Well, for working women, it gets tricky.
Before marriage if you are working or have colleagues, after marriage, it's like forgetting about it all. And by any chance if you need a reference from your older colleagues, they would not recognize you. - RE: Should women change their surname after marriage? -Deepa Kaushik (04/30/14)
- Marriage is the bonding and commitment between two individuals. If a man can choose to keep his surname, then why not a woman? The feelings and affections doesn’t change with the name. the surname of the girl was the one with which she had been accepted for the marriage, then there is no necessity to get that changed.
Gone were the days when woman used to be the responsibility of men. They are no more burden on anybody and carries the aptitude to earn her livelihood. When she has the capability to get recognised with her name in this world, then there doesn’t require any necessity to get the surname changed.
Changing the surname is nothing but another trait of the male dominant society which searches for lame meaningless things to be imposed on women forcibly, just to make her understand her status in comparison to men. It is women who has courage and strong will power to show her feast to the world with all such silly rules and regulations. Men definitely would have lost the battle if they were kept in women’s place.
